Your 20s

It's been said that you officially transit into supposed adulthood at the age of 20 and I must admit that it is awfully true, at least for me it is. The most precious memories in a person's life are more often than not formed in their 20s. The transition from high school to college, making of new friends, graduating,  your first job, your first promotion, your first car, falling in love, marriage and maybe, kids. These are all precious memories you will form in your 20s.

Such a wonderful journey, but yet seemingly daunting. All the uncertainties, the pressure of living up to expectations, responsibilities and the constant struggle in running the rat race that we've all come to know as life, such are the challenges that lay ahead of us. I'll never forget this gem of advice that was given to me by a revered friend, a drop of wisdom if I may and I would love to share it with you. Hopefully, it'll help you as much as it did for me.

I was told that there are three realizations that one must have at the age of 20. Firstly, turning 20 means that you've to get your shit together. You'll never have the time to party as hard as you did nor will you ever have the luxury of time to make mistakes. No. Every decision you make from now on will have either a positive or a negative influence on your future and you have to realize that your future lies in your hands. And more often than not, our bad decisions come back to haunt us later on. So point 1, decisions. Make the best ones you can.

Actions. You've to realize that you are accountable for your own actions and that you've to take responsibility for them. Your actions may directly or indirectly affect the people around you such as your family and friends be it in the words you say or the things you do, there will always be an effect and you have to always be accountable for them.

Lastly, plans. You must always have a plan, a plan for your own future. You've to realize that your future lies in your own hands and it has been said, if you fail to plan you plan to fail. So take time to know yourself, to think about where you want to be and then start to plan for your own future. You must know what you want and you must be decisive. Know where you are headed for and constantly question yourself, is this the direction that I should be headed in? Is this what I want? Is this what's best for me? And you must always have a plan B, just so in case plan A fails, you'll have something to fall back on. If there's only one instance in your life that you must be selfish, that you can be selfish for, it is this, your dreams and your future. Be selfish for your dreams, fight hard for them and never let them go.

If there was one thing i gathered from the conversation with him, it is this, accountability. Accountability to yourself and not letting yourself down. Yes, you may fail along the way but you must be able to tell yourself that hey, I did my best. Always be able to answer to yourself. And with this, I wish you all the best, enjoy your 20s and yeap, go get em.